Soft Boundaries

Soft Boundaries

You Can Start The Day Over At Any Time

I promise—this works.

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Erica Chidi
Jul 16, 2025
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I’m not sure where I was the first time I heard someone say “You can start the day over at any time”, but it instantly became one of my failsafe self-soothing tools whenever I feel out of control.

Recently, in my Into the Fridge interview,

Katie Stone
asked about my go-to mantra. When I shared that this was it, I was so moved by how much it resonated with her readers, and it made me realize that it might be useful to unpack further and share exactly how I use it in my life.

“Starting your day over at any time “ is disarmingly simple, radically permissive and designed for WTF moments.

We’ve all had days when something goes wrong early—a frustrating email, a tense conversation, a sudden surge of anxiety. When that happens, it’s easy to slip into black-and-white thinking and convince yourself that the day is ruined.

Giving yourself permission to start the day over interrupts that negative circuitry and reminds you that you don’t have to meld with whatever just pissed you off.

Whenever I need to reset my day, here are the two steps I take:

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